It’s as simple and as daunting as that. On the eve of this year’s Valentine’s Day, here’s a thought about love.  Staying together during the good times is easy; it seems to me that the true test of love  comes when times get tough. The lengths to which couples join together and fight to hold on to the relationship, is a measure of how much they value each other. It’s usually the partner who is fighting the hardest that calls me to set up the first couple therapy appointment; although this is not always the case. Sometimes the one that is fighting hardest puts their partner to the test  and insists that if the relationship is to continue, the more resistant one must make the call.  Either way, there is often a turning point in a relationship when one or both partners realize that  they have had enough and that something must change if they are to survive as a couple.  It’s at this point that the real work begins and their ‘true love’ for each other is put to the test.