The 20th century philosopher , Billy Joel, once said: “The King and the Queen went back to the green but you can never go back there again”. No truer words have ever been spoken.  Some  members of my therapy groups  are stuck in the past.  They long to re-create a period in their lives, or even just a fleeting moment in time, that gave them great satisfaction. Toward that end, they pay a price for their  vain attempt to make it live forever.  These members miss an opportunity for  spontaneous emotional connections with others in the group and  the opportunity to be alive to experience life in the present. I tell them: “You can’t recapture a moment”.   The irony, of course, is that the treasured moment does live forever–  even if  only as a memory. Or in the words of another contemporary philosopher, Paul Simon: “Everything looks worse in black and white”.