Of all the treatment destructive resistances, one of the more infuriating to deal with is the fait accompli (the French term for an unilateral decision).  When a member announces at the beginning of the session, that this is their last one, or even worse, when they leave a voicemail to that effect, it produces a de-stabilizing effect on the group.  Some members question why are they making a commitment to treatment, when someone else can leave so casually. As the leader, I am angry when a treatment decision is made without my consultation.  The group defector must have thought about it beforehand, why wasn’t it discussed in group before going into action?   My anger is usually induced; because I view the member’s behavior as an act of aggression.  I wasn’t angry with the member before their announcement; it is my assumption that I am picking up their unexpressed anger toward me. At least when it happens in group, rather than over the phone,  I can channel my irritation and ask the other members;” How do you feel about being dealt a ‘fait accompli?’ I can also ask the group defector:” You are not only leaving me but you are also leaving people that you are attached to, and that are attached  to you. Why end your relationship with them because you’re angry with me?” I also wonder out loud how this behavior mirrors the manner in which they handle interpersonal conflict in their ‘real life’ outside the group.