Mar
10
The expression: “Hoisted on his own petard” comes from Shakespeare’s Hamlet.  It means being injured by one’s own device that was intended to injure others.  Wouldn’t it be ironic and fascinating if after all the bluster, the one person to  bring...
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Mar
01
The New York Times   Letters to the Editor February 29, 2016 Rehabilitation Escaping Addiction TO THE EDITOR: Re “Rehab Rooted in Science” (Profiles in Science, Feb. 23): As a group psychotherapist for over 35 years, I take exception to the characterization of the treatment...
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Feb
13
I had to laugh. During the 2016 Democratic Primary Campaign, Chelsea Clinton made a hilarious slip of the tongue. In comparing Bernie Sanders to her mother, instead of referring to him as Senator Sanders, she called him President Sanders.  Of course, she immediately reversed...
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Feb
12
It’s as simple and as daunting as that. On the eve of this year’s Valentine’s Day, here’s a thought about love.  Staying together during the good times is easy; it seems to me that the true test of love  comes when times get tough. The lengths to which...
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Feb
09
The 20th century philosopher , Billy Joel, once said: “The King and the Queen went back to the green but you can never go back there again”. No truer words have ever been spoken.  Some  members of my therapy groups  are stuck in the past.  They long to re-creat...
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Feb
08
Freud  may have said: “Psychoanalysis is, in essence, a cure through love”, but Tina Turner said: “What’s Love Got To Do With It?”.  As a psychotherapist with over thirty-five years experience, I believe love is not enough. While I agree with Dr....
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Feb
06
Joe enjoyed being around kids,  but only if they were other people’s kids.  He loved the spontaneity of children, their humor, inquisitiveness and innocent wisdom but he was terrified of having children of his own.   That was because he feared repeating his own childhood...
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Feb
04
I was gratified to read Oliver Burkeman’s essay in the Guardian, “The Revenge of Freud”.  According to him, recent research seems to indicate what I suspected all along.  Over the long haul, psychoanalysis trumps “Train Your Brain”-type therapy. ...
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Jan
22
“I read the news today, oh boy”.  According to the NY Post, January 19, 2016, Jerry Seinfeld is auctioning off some of his garage of fancy cars for millions of dollars.  He is quoted as saying:” it’s time to send some of them back into the world, for...
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Jan
21
In a recent article by Oliver Burkeman in The Guardian entitled, “Therapy Wars: The Revenge of Freud”, the author cites current research supporting the effectiveness of long-term psychotherapy, over the darling of quick-fix gurus and insurance companies, Cognitive...
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Jan
20
Some group members have been so damaged by childhood emotional neglect that no amount of TLC in the present can undo the past.  It’s like water through a sieve; nothing accrues. Although Henry is not Catholic, he claims that his life’s mantra is mea culpa. He reports...
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Jan
16
When group members get lost in ‘futurizing’ about how much better their lives will be at some distant time and place, I first will  ask them:” And what are you going to do in the meantime?” The point is that we all are of two minds about almos...
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Jan
14
In yesterday’s post, I wrote about Mario Livio’s brief depiction of Freud in his book, “Brilliant Blunders”. While Livio devoted considerably more time and space (play on words intended) on Einstein’s scientific blunders, for me, his most significant...
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Jan
13
Mario Livio, in his book “Brilliant Blunders”, addresses the subject of how the mistakes that genius scientists make actually advance scientific knowledge.  He goes so far as to say that science cannot progress without  these brilliant blunders. Unfortunately, Livio...
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Jan
07
When I opened the door to my office and stepped into the waiting room, I was immediately struck by the beauty of the young woman seated there. She had long blond hair, translucent skin and blue eyes, as if Marilyn Monroe herself had somehow come back to life and was now here to...
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Jan
04
After watching the terrific new film, “Spotlight”, it occurred to me that there are similarities between this movie’s theme and that of the classic 1940’s movie “Gaslight” (where the husband attempts to drive his wife mad by invalidating her...
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Jan
02
President Obama seems to think most world leaders are ‘out of their minds’. I agree but disagree with his assessment of how this comes about.  Apparently, he believes that the job itself makes a man (most world leaders are men) crazy. I think the process starts before...
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Jan
01
Early this brisk morning on  New Year’s Day,  while I walked past the Church on my corner, I saw a  homeless guy sitting on the steps.  We made eye-contact and he asked me, in a foreign accent, if I lived around here.  I was startled and initially put off by the question...
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Dec
29
Sitting at my desk on this dark, dreary winter’s evening, I recalled a warm, sunny late Spring afternoon some years ago. While vacationing  at Fair Harbor on Fire Island NY , I stood on the dock and watched a family of swans  swim past, in a straight line.  The family...
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Dec
28
  We, human beings are dependent creatures. We are born dependent and need each other throughout our lives; but when our relationships don’t meet our dependency needs, we often turn to substances as a substitute. That’s why drug dealers never have to advertise. ...
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