Jul
15
Emotions like energy, can neither be created nor destroyed.  The theory goes that if the feelings are not put into words, they are transformed either in action or physical symptoms. Here’s an example of the later. A group member, Martin, often complained of stomach aches....
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Jun
02
THE MAN’S SECTION I’m more of an ethnic Jew than a religious one. As a ‘buffet Jew’, I pick and choose which customs and ceremonies to observe. During the High Holy Days, I like to attend Yizkor, the memorial service, for my parents and other deceased...
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May
30
  The other morning, as my dog, “Molly”,  and   I were nearing the end of our daily constitutional through Riverside Park, I heard a guy calling for his dog.  “Max”!   “Max”! was his plaintiff cry. I couldn’t see the owner but...
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May
26
While pushing my granddaughter on a swing in her backyard, singing songs and telling  each other silly jokes, seemingly from out of nowhere, she asked:” Have you ever kissed me?”  What a smart girl, I thought. The truth was that I hadn’t.  When she was very...
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May
14
Early the other weekday morning my fiancée, Lois, opened the refrigerator and saw my wallet sitting there. As I as getting dressed for work, she approached me with a sad, scared look on her face. “Are you okay, honey?” she asked.  I said:” Yeah, why are you...
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May
11
During a discussion in my Sociology class at NYIT, the subject turned to the concept of the ‘glass ceiling’.  I told the story of a woman I knew who had been promoted to the Board of Directors of a large corporation. As a Board Member, she was entitled to attend board...
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Apr
04
From 1986 until his death in 2008, I was a student of the world-renowned, brilliant, charismatic, authoritarian group psychotherapist, Dr. Louis R. Ormont; but in addition to his genius, Ormont was also an ethical mess.  Ormont had fluid ego boundaries; he treated and trained the...
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Mar
29
I couldn’t believe my eyes. While riding the subway home one night, I turned to the obituary page and saw the picture of a familiar  sad, half-smiling face of a young man that I once knew. At first, it didn’t click. I knew the face but for a split second...
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Mar
10
The expression: “Hoisted on his own petard” comes from Shakespeare’s Hamlet.  It means being injured by one’s own device that was intended to injure others.  Wouldn’t it be ironic and fascinating if after all the bluster, the one person to  bring...
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Mar
01
The New York Times   Letters to the Editor February 29, 2016 Rehabilitation Escaping Addiction TO THE EDITOR: Re “Rehab Rooted in Science” (Profiles in Science, Feb. 23): As a group psychotherapist for over 35 years, I take exception to the characterization of the treatment...
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Feb
13
I had to laugh. During the 2016 Democratic Primary Campaign, Chelsea Clinton made a hilarious slip of the tongue. In comparing Bernie Sanders to her mother, instead of referring to him as Senator Sanders, she called him President Sanders.  Of course, she immediately reversed...
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Feb
12
It’s as simple and as daunting as that. On the eve of this year’s Valentine’s Day, here’s a thought about love.  Staying together during the good times is easy; it seems to me that the true test of love  comes when times get tough. The lengths to which...
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Feb
09
The 20th century philosopher , Billy Joel, once said: “The King and the Queen went back to the green but you can never go back there again”. No truer words have ever been spoken.  Some  members of my therapy groups  are stuck in the past.  They long to re-creat...
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Feb
08
Freud  may have said: “Psychoanalysis is, in essence, a cure through love”, but Tina Turner said: “What’s Love Got To Do With It?”.  As a psychotherapist with over thirty-five years experience, I believe love is not enough. While I agree with Dr....
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Feb
06
Joe enjoyed being around kids,  but only if they were other people’s kids.  He loved the spontaneity of children, their humor, inquisitiveness and innocent wisdom but he was terrified of having children of his own.   That was because he feared repeating his own childhood...
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Feb
04
I was gratified to read Oliver Burkeman’s essay in the Guardian, “The Revenge of Freud”.  According to him, recent research seems to indicate what I suspected all along.  Over the long haul, psychoanalysis trumps “Train Your Brain”-type therapy. ...
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Jan
22
“I read the news today, oh boy”.  According to the NY Post, January 19, 2016, Jerry Seinfeld is auctioning off some of his garage of fancy cars for millions of dollars.  He is quoted as saying:” it’s time to send some of them back into the world, for...
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Jan
21
In a recent article by Oliver Burkeman in The Guardian entitled, “Therapy Wars: The Revenge of Freud”, the author cites current research supporting the effectiveness of long-term psychotherapy, over the darling of quick-fix gurus and insurance companies, Cognitive...
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Jan
20
Some group members have been so damaged by childhood emotional neglect that no amount of TLC in the present can undo the past.  It’s like water through a sieve; nothing accrues. Although Henry is not Catholic, he claims that his life’s mantra is mea culpa. He reports...
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Jan
16
When group members get lost in ‘futurizing’ about how much better their lives will be at some distant time and place, I first will  ask them:” And what are you going to do in the meantime?” The point is that we all are of two minds about almos...
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