May
02
                                                    Chapter 65  The Ego and the Yid   An accountant by profession, one of my male group members, Manny, fancied himself to be a rabbi. Manny used the group as his bully pulpit; he gratified his oral needs by holding forth on...
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Apr
29
Chapter 12 Go Away but Don’t Leave Me Alone   Consistency is not really a human trait. Our attitude toward relationships is no exception. On the one hand, as the line of the song goes, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” On the other hand, as the...
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Apr
27
Chapter 213: The Emotional Inheritance The long buried but long simmering resentment between siblings often rears its ugly head again when the parents die and the will is contested. I call this phenomenon the emotional inheritance. Many members devote much of their time and...
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Apr
26
Many times, in both my personal and professional lives, I seen people, myself included, attempt to recapture a past precious moment.  For better or worse, it doesn’t work. In fact, the harder one tries to recapture it, the more elusive it becomes. Let it go an...
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Apr
01
Here is an updated version of the Table of Contents for my new book. Please have a look and let me know if any of the chapter titles are intriguing to you. Table of Contents 99 Unconventional Interventions in Group Psychotherapy   Preface Introduction   Part I:...
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Mar
07
Chapter 189: Sex In The City: “Can you top that?”             Jack came to group after a panic attack. He looked visibly shaken. Kelly asked him: “What’s wrong? You look like you just lost your best friend?” Jack replied: “I did just lose my best friend. Helen left me for another...
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Mar
05
The recent interest in ‘gaslighting’ has motivated me to post a section on that topic from my book: Emotional Incest in Group Psychotherapy–A Conspiracy of Silence published by Rowman & Littlefield in 2014.  While the focus of this section is gaslighting as...
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Mar
03
Chapter 74: When Will I Be Ready To Leave Group Therapy?   “Hello I must be going.” There’s a law in physics that states: ‘for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction’.  That law could just as easily apply to the process of group therapy.  Emotional growth is not...
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Mar
02
Chapter 142: If Looks Could Kill– “Hello, I’m Dr. Pepper and just like my counterpart here…. I’m so misunderstood”. Strutting into the classroom for the first time, I knew that I was dead meat. This was the first graduate school class that I taught and I wanted to make a...
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Mar
01
When President Trump plays fast and loose with the facts, is it small wonder that his nominees are accused of lying under oath? Trump has referred to his administration as ‘a well oiled machine’: I think a more apt metaphor would be: ‘The fish stinks from the...
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Feb
14
Chapter 230:  A Cyber Stalker In Group Therapy Despite my group therapy rule about confidentiality: “Members are  known to each other on a first name basis only and nothing leaves the room”—some group members don’t abide by it, some don’t abide by it gleefully. Nick was such an...
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Feb
10
                   Chapter 79: “To Have Someone Is To Lose Someone” In order to cope with day to day living, we all deny the inevitable. The fact that most of us outlive our parents, some even dying of old age, does not lessen the pain of the loss.  For however long...
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Feb
09
Chapter 147: The Addict in Group  We humans are dependent creatures. We are born dependent and need each other throughout our lives; but when our relationships don’t meet our three basic dependency needs—-: 1.To be loved 2. To be accepted 3. To be understood— we...
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Feb
07
Chapter 61: I’m a Professional Voyeur I get paid to be a yenta. As a group therapist, my job is to stick my nose in other people’s business– that includes their sex lives.    Some of my colleagues don’t see it that way. They think that I’m too intrusive.  Some of the...
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Jan
30
Humpty-Trumpty had a great fall All of his toadies and all of his yes-men Couldn’t put Trumpty back together again. To paraphrase George Santayana: “Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it”.   History has taught us that presidents, like Lyndon...
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Jan
13
Chapter 205: “ I Think Your Values Stink” Milton, a very rich real estate developer, was full of himself. He treated people, himself included, as objects. When he told the group he wanted help deciding what kind of  car to buy– a Ferrari or a Lamborghini, I almost laughed...
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Jan
04
Chapter 133: Are You Happy With Your Weight?   Eating disorders are one of the most difficult disorders to treat. Obviously, we can live without drugs and alcohol but not food. One of my first questions at a screening interview with overweight prospective group members is: “Are...
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Jan
01
Chapter 49: “Are You Getting The Reaction That You’re Looking For?” Many years ago, I looked around the group room while members listened in stunned silence as Tasos animatedly told the group of his weekend of debauchery. The group looked at him in shock.  Tasos, a handsome,...
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Dec
16
Chapter 194 “Friends, Romans and Countrymen”—Political Discussions In Group In the wake of the contentious presidential election of 2016, my therapy groups have been galvanized, and at times, have become polarized, as members vent their feelings about the results.  While members...
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Dec
12
I’d like your opinion. Do these chapter titles and brief descriptions draw your interest? Table of Contents:“ 99 Unconventional Interventions In Group Psychotherapy” Part I: Unconventional Techniques For Non –Treatment Destructive Resistance   1. Chapter 1: Clothes...
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