Dec
04
To The Editor: As a group psychotherapist and sociologist, I concur with the author’s assessment of the vicissitudes of   the unexamined male libido. However, I disagree with his conclusion.  In the last paragraph he writes: ‘I’m not asking for male...
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Nov
04
In a recent and brilliant lecture/concert  at the 92nd Street Y, Dr. Richard Kogan, a psychiatrist and concert pianist,  told the audience about the life of George Gershwin and also played his music. One amusing anecdote about Gershwin’s life keeps running through my mind. ...
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Oct
03
Recently, I received a call from a guy who said he found my name through an internet search.  I asked him, “How can I help you?” He said that he needed a letter from a licensed psychotherapist to vouch for his fitness to own a gun. He asked me, “Will you write a...
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Sep
06
A colleague of mine with years of experience in multiple 12 step programs who would prefer to remain anonymous wrote: I checked out your post and I like it but I’d like to weigh in on a few things since I have experience in support groups (AA for 14 years). -The anonymity is...
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Aug
19
Some people confuse the two; they are not the same. However, they complement each other. Support groups are not therapy groups for several reasons. First, support groups are self-help groups and members are encouraged to have contact with each other outside the group. ...
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Aug
01
While driving past a cemetery, my 5 year old grandson asked us, “Is this Heaven?” When he said good-bye to his big sister for the summer, as she left for sleep-away camp, he asked his mommy, “Is this what sadness feels like?”   My granddaughter,...
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Jul
18
  Table of Contents Some People Don’t Want What They Say They Want– 100 Unconventional Interventions in Group Psychotherapy      Acknowledgments   Preface   Introduction   Part I: The Nitty-Gritty of Doing Group Psychotherapy Phrases that Inhibit Spontaneous Interaction...
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Jul
07
Here is the first chapter from my new book, “Some People Don’t Want What They Say They Want–100 Unconventional Interventions in Group Psychotherapy” Chapter 1 Phrases that Inhibit Spontaneous Interaction If the goal of the group contract—Say how you feel...
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Jun
12
Chapter 40 He Left Out the Best Part of the Story Pogo once said, “We have met the enemy and he is us” (Kelly, 1953). Everyone has a story. By that, I mean we all put a spin on the events of our lives that fits the script of who we tell ourselves, and the world, we think we are....
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Jun
03
5/31/2017 Table of Contents 99 Unconventional Interventions in Group Psychotherapy Preface Introduction Part I: The Nitty-Gritty of Doing Group Psychotherapy 1. Phrases that Inhibit Spontaneous Interaction 2. Leading a Group Should Be Gratifying Part II: Some People Don’t Want...
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Jun
01
Chapter 133 Never Tell a Bulimic, “Don’t Binge!” Food, like sex, is one of the pleasures of life. But, just as with sex, if taken to an extreme the pleasure of food morphs into a compulsion. That is why eating disorders are one of the most difficult disorders to treat. Obviously,...
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May
03
Chapter 101 The Final Chapter Woody Allen famously said, “I’m not afraid of death. I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” Have you ever walked into a room and have forgotten why you walked in there in the first place, only to fear—is this it? The beginning of the end of...
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May
02
                                                    Chapter 65  The Ego and the Yid   An accountant by profession, one of my male group members, Manny, fancied himself to be a rabbi. Manny used the group as his bully pulpit; he gratified his oral needs by holding forth on...
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Apr
29
Chapter 12 Go Away but Don’t Leave Me Alone   Consistency is not really a human trait. Our attitude toward relationships is no exception. On the one hand, as the line of the song goes, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.” On the other hand, as the...
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Apr
27
Chapter 213: The Emotional Inheritance The long buried but long simmering resentment between siblings often rears its ugly head again when the parents die and the will is contested. I call this phenomenon the emotional inheritance. Many members devote much of their time and...
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Apr
26
Many times, in both my personal and professional lives, I seen people, myself included, attempt to recapture a past precious moment.  For better or worse, it doesn’t work. In fact, the harder one tries to recapture it, the more elusive it becomes. Let it go an...
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Apr
01
Here is an updated version of the Table of Contents for my new book. Please have a look and let me know if any of the chapter titles are intriguing to you. Table of Contents 99 Unconventional Interventions in Group Psychotherapy   Preface Introduction   Part I:...
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Mar
07
Chapter 189: Sex In The City: “Can you top that?”             Jack came to group after a panic attack. He looked visibly shaken. Kelly asked him: “What’s wrong? You look like you just lost your best friend?” Jack replied: “I did just lose my best friend. Helen left me for another...
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Mar
05
The recent interest in ‘gaslighting’ has motivated me to post a section on that topic from my book: Emotional Incest in Group Psychotherapy–A Conspiracy of Silence published by Rowman & Littlefield in 2014.  While the focus of this section is gaslighting as...
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Mar
03
Chapter 74: When Will I Be Ready To Leave Group Therapy?   “Hello I must be going.” There’s a law in physics that states: ‘for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction’.  That law could just as easily apply to the process of group therapy.  Emotional growth is not...
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