Many years ago, a woman, Sally, said these words to me in a therapy group where we were both members. Sally was obviously angry at me for something; but after all these years hence, the details escape me. I do remember my response, however. I said: ” You might be right but that’s not a feeling.  To say: {“I feel that you’re crazy”} is a judgment couched as one”.  Needless to say, this only added fuel to the fire. We sniped at each other until the leader stepped in and validated my perception. Sally wasn’t very happy hearing this. However, he added  that I had a ‘gift’ in getting people to be angry with me. Over the years, I always remembered our interaction.  It has served me well as a group leader when I hear members use these words against each other, or any variation go a sentence that begins with the words: “I feel that” which signals a move away from an emotion and into a thought .  I always step in and re-direct the accuser to state his or her feelings rather than a judgment.  More often than not, the outcome is a productive dialogue about why he or she is  so angry with the ‘crazy one’.