To An Old Friend

This morning, I found out that my best friend from childhood, Neal J. Zimmerman, died….four years ago.  What a shock! He was only 64 years old. “When I’m 64…”  echoes in my head and has haunted me all day.   I had been thinking of him lately. In...
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Margaret The Body Poet Pt.1

In group therapy, the assumption is that everything has meaning, including physical symptoms. If a medical doctor has  determined that there is no organic basis for  a group member’s physical symptoms, I believe that the member is ‘saying it’ through their body,...
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Turn to Port

Adam Port is an extraordinary sports artist. In the spirit of full disclosure,  I know him; he designed this website. As an unbiased testament to his creative talent, however, I can honestly say that some of my college students have praised the web design.  These students,...
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A Change of Heart Or She Had a Plan

The other afternoon, while walking down Broadway, I saw a disheveled looking young woman, plastic cup in hand, silently begging passers-by for money. Despite her appearance, there was something both  intelligent and suffering in her countenance. I made an immediate  partial...
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Paranoia Strikes Deep Pt.1

I placed a paranoid man into one of my groups. Paranoia is based on fear; and ‘Marty’ ( identifying details have been changed) was very afraid. He was convinced that “they” were out to get him. Marty had an objection to many of my group rules such as: no...
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The Group Monopolizer Or– The Ego and The Yid and Minutiae

An accountant by profession, one of my male patients fancies himself to be a rabbi. ‘Moshe’ (to protect confidentiality, identifying information has been altered in all blog entries  containing clinical material) uses the group as his bully pulpit; he gratifies  his...
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Someone Murdered My Sailboat

A vicious deranged, and heartless killer took a chainsaw  to the hull of the “Pepper Pot”, my 17′ sloop, and slashed it beyond repair.  Why would anyone do such a thing?   In the twenty years that we were together she had given me countless hours of pleasure,...
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Go Away But Don’t Leave Me Alone

Relationships are always a sort of dance; there’s the eternal push-pull.  At the heart of all emotionally intense relationships there is ambivalence, strong conflicting feelings at the same time.  A patient(identifying information has been altered to protect...
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The Reluctant Hero

Mark (all names have been changed) arrived late for his mens’ group.  He looked visibly depressed.  Marvin asked him: “What happened?” Mark told the group that he could barely speak because he was so upset. He had come to group directly from the vet; he was...
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How A Therapist Mourns–The difference between Individual & Group

  I was moved by Robin Weiss’s poignant essay on the loss of her patient. (NY Times Sunday Review July 5, 2015 ‘How Therapists Mourn’)  But with all due respect, I believe the essay’s title  should have been called,   “How A Therapist...
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Let’s Not Talk About Your Sex

I was alarmed to read about Esther Perel’s  ( NY Times Sunday Review July 5, 2015 “Let’s Talk About Your Sex”) decision to hold ” occasional individual sessions in which, by request, she will keep secrets from the other partner in couples...
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There Is No Freedom Without Structure Pt1.

Several years ago, Sir Ken Robinson gave a rousing TED Talk about the new revolution in education. His message: Schools must cultivate creativity.  It was the same message that we read about in the radical 70’s with writers like Jonathan Kozol, George Dennison and Postman...
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Teaching–Pepper Style Pt1.

I’ve been a teacher for 44 years.  I’m not bragging; it’s just a fact.  From teaching first grade through post-graduate, I’ve learned a lot about teaching and I’m good at it–just ask my students. My classes fill up as soon as registration...
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